Concrete Phrases to Improve Your Self-Talk

If you’re struggling with low self-esteem and have problems with your self-worth, you’re not alone.

If you’re struggling with low self-esteem and have problems with your self-worth, you’re not alone. Forbes reports that 85% of the world’s population has low self-esteem, and although you might think that it’s normal to think that others are better than you or you simply aren’t good enough, the way you view yourself actually heavily influences your reality.

This is especially evident in your self-talk or the messages you tell yourself. Let’s take a closer look at the role this has in your life, and how you can improve it.

What is self-talk?


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Self-talk is the dialogue that you have with yourself either in your mind or out loud. The words and phrases you speak are based on your self-worth. This means that if you think highly of yourself, you’ll tend to talk to yourself in a positive manner, while those with low self-worth will talk to themselves negatively.

For example, let’s say you have a fitness goal of developing stronger arms. As you go to the gym to accomplish it, you find yourself struggling with lifting dumbbells. If you practice positive self-talk, you’ll tell yourself, “Don’t give up! Power through!” On the other hand, if negative self-talk is more of your language, you’ll say something like, “Just quit, as you obviously cannot do it.”

This inner dialogue can spell the difference between success and failure, whether it’s a small daily task or a big childhood dream. Sometimes, negative self-talk can be comforting, since you’re not faced with a challenge and are not pushing yourself towards positive change. However, as we’ve previously shared on ‘How to Fight Through Discomfort to Become Your Best Self’, becoming the best version of yourself means you have to step outside of your comfort zone — especially if it boxes you into feeling bad about yourself constantly.

Why should you practice positive self-talk?

The words you use to communicate with yourself are powerful, which is why talking to yourself positively is a must for you to grow. The path to positive self-talk can be difficult, especially if you’ve gone through or are currently going through some tough times in your life. In fact, Maryville University psychologists note that there are strong connections between mental health and learning success, which helps explain why getting out of a rut will require more effort than you’ll need for other tasks. Although picking up new, positive habits may not be the easiest thing to do, it’s essential you teach yourself these new habits to improve your overall well being and your mental health.

Indeed, a study published in the Frontiers in Psychology highlights positive self-talk as one of the most effective ways to achieve a goal. To make positive self-talk a habit, you can practice uttering concrete phases to yourself on a daily basis. What’s more, you can say it multiple times during the day — from the moment you wake up and head to the bathroom, to settling down before going to sleep. Though they may sound forced in the beginning, especially if you’re not used to positive self-talk at all, just remember that practice makes perfect!

Positive phrases to help you get started

With all this in mind, here are some excellent examples to help you enhance and hone your positive self-talk skills.

• If your morale is low on accomplishing a task, you can say, “I have the power to achieve my goals.”
• If you’re faced with fear, you can say, “I am in control of my situation.”
• If you make a mistake, you can say, “I can learn from this, and do better next time.”
• If you’re not confident about yourself, you can say, “I am enough.”
• And if you’re worried about what people think of you, you can say, “What I think about myself is what matters.”

written for by River Jade

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    Cassandra Freeman